Orgasm can be defined as "the capacity to surrender to the flow of biological energy, free of any inhibitions; the capacity to discharge completely the dammed-up sexual excitation through involuntary, pleasurable convulsions of the body.
Wilhelm Reich
As a bodily and psychological experience, orgasm is a clear indication to what extent the person is able to indulge in his/her body or in another person. In this process of surrendering to “the flow of biological energy '', emotional blockades, which originate in prejudice, family upbringing, emotional inhibition, etc. emerge.
PROBLEMS WITH REACHING ORGASM
Knowing the causes of the problems with having an orgasm, we can easily access and understand its essence:
Prejudice - The prejudice about what is good or bad sexual behaviour is often the cause of shame and inability to relax during sex. That is why it is useful to talk about it openly and to release the feelings of shame, incompetence and even disgust that may arise based on the established prejudice about “desirable” female sexuality.
Family upbringing - Sexual repression, natural childlike curiosity and inquisitiveness about “where babies come from” or “how babies are made” lead to the blockage and conflict between biological and psychological development. Sex is still a taboo in many families, so children during the process of growing up get distorted and wrong pictures about it. So, girls on the verge of girlhood start to feel ashamed of their bodies, their sexuality and they feel the discord between their mind and body. This disorder of energy balance reflects on mental state of the girl, and later, of the woman who will have the problem to accept and surrender to her sexuality. Very often, at puberty sexual inhibition can be reflected in physical symptoms as well (interrupted or irregular menstrual cycle). In these cases (as it often happens in anorexic people) the girl literally cuts off her sexuality through the rejection of her body and bodily experience. Because of this, for most girls menstrual cycles are regulated after achieving a satisfactory sexual relationship. This is one of the most obvious examples of mind and body connection. Body psychotherapists may often in their work with clients notice a blockage of the pelvic body segment, which is associated with blockage of sexuality.
Emotional blockages are the deepest and the strongest causes of a wide range of sexual dysfunctions. Whether it's the fear of indulgence, or feelings of inferiority, guilt, disgust or hidden anger toward the partner, emotional blockages repress spontaneous, involuntary relief, which is the basis for orgastic experience. Characteristic emotional blockages, among other things, lead to the inability to achieve sexual climax. Furthermore, cutting off strong emotions leads to the low level of biological energy and the lack of sexual excitation in general. In this way, the woman ceases to feel or to be aware of any sexual need, because the release of sexuality would lead to the release of all repressed, unpleasant emotions. Frigidity and anorgasmia can be explained by multiple energy blockages in the body.
HOW TO REACH ORGASM?
Different methods of psychological growth and psychotherapy deal with a common problem- how to progress towards more comprehensive acceptance of yourself. Psychological and bodily integration, which occurs due to the awareness and acceptance of cut off and rejected parts of the body is a prerequisite for a satisfactory and fulfilling sex life, among other things.
The change of the attitude towards yourself and your body is the common denominator of all forms of psychotherapy. The comprehensive, integrative approach to every person is specific for body psychotherapy. The accent is on the awareness, releasing and surrendering to emotions, and the work on vegetative relief provides a good basis for the release of repressed sexuality. The main premise of the work of body therapists is that sexual energy is biological energy and that when people work on integration of suppressed and cut off parts of themselves and on energy integration, it will consequently lead to the release of sexual energy. A huge potential for sexual energy lies in every woman and every woman has the ability to explore her sexuality and enjoy it.
To deepen the so-called “pelvic breathing” and to use specific techniques of integration between pelvic and other parts of the body is the basis for vegetative relief and removal of sexual blockages in contact. Removing pelvic blockages can also be achieved by breathing exercises and pelvic floor exercises, also known as Kegel exercises. These exercises can help the woman to increase her and her partner’s sexual gratification.
Of course, these exercises release the potential to enjoy, but only deep, sincere and genuine acceptance and experience of all aspects of oneself and one’s sexuality lead the woman to a more fulfilling sex life.
